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Cooperative Communication Practitioner Certification Program
"Nancy has been one of the most significant mentors of my life. Her ability to inspire you to stand in your power and teach complex concepts is phenomenal..." Torin Lee, Skills for Change Coach and Communications Consultant
Module 1) Introduction to Cooperative Communication: Self Regulation; the Clearing Held Feelings & Stories Process; Observable Facts.
Module 2) Empowered Transactions: The Hierarchy-Intimacy Spectrum; Wise Adult Consciousness; Story-Free Feelings.
Module 3) The Stories We Tell: Dismantle Internalized Oppression; From Self-Centric to Other-Centric Stories.
Module 4) Big Picture Stories: Compassionate Listening; Social Context; Validate, Nurture & Contextualize.
Module 5) Ask for 100% of What You Want: Share Your Vulnerability; Non-Generative Responses to Conflict.
Module 6) Cooperative Agreements: Negotiate Alternatives to Compromise; Empowered Boundaries; Self Forgiveness and Letting Go.
Module 7) Putting It Together: Make a Plan; Build Your Practice.
I want to live in a world where our efforts to communicate create connection and feelings of being loved, heard and understood. I want us to feel confident when we speak our truth, and I want others to feel safe being vulnerable with us. I want our conversations to support us to successfully co-create our dreams in partnership and in community. I want our words to build trust, so that our conflicts help us grow stronger together.
I’m saddened when I hear from people who feel frustrated when their attempts to communicate instead result in disconnection, heartbreak and isolation. So often, when we finally share our feelings, we have waited too long, and what we say often reflects our fear, anger and desperation more than our positive desires. When these patterns of hurt and fear turn into disagreements and arguments, often we end up speaking from our survival reflexes and beliefs, rather than from our vulnerability, life-affirming values and optimism for the future.
I want for all of us to experience communication that helps us share our feelings, cooperate and grow so that we feel close, connected, and supported. We can learn to be accountable for our impact, repair successfully, and when necessary embody empowered boundaries.
I’ve created a 35-hour Practitioner Certification Program to share Skills for Change Cooperative Communication tools and methods — to help you guide others as they self regulate, express their vulnerability, build trust, shift from defensiveness to curiosity, and skillfully communicate beyond conflict.
In order to communicate successfully, we need to know when to talk and when to pause. We'll begin with tools to help clients regulate emotions, center themselves and de-sensitize anxiety. We'll identify when a client has entered a flooded fight-flight-freeze-dissociate state, and help them make a recovery plan that restores their baseline resourceful state.
We’ll explore how power affects transactions, and how to identify when cooperation is possible. We'll help our clients locate themselves in their wise adult consciousness so their communication is calm and effective.
Our obstacles to cooperation often lie in our internalized oppressive beliefs. We'll learn to help our clients shift from defensiveness to curiosity.
Compassionate listening starts with ourselves. We'll learn to help clients forgive themselves, embody empowered boundaries, and let go when needed.
Finally, we'll explore the steps involved in building a successful Cooperative Communication practice. You'll leave with a clear plan for how to get started.